I am abstinent But Struggling

Mental focus and self-discipline can not be used as a substitute for a Higher Power in the long-term recovery equation.


Im a little confused...

A lady was walking down the street when she spied a local meat market. The sign read "All Things Meat."  She turned in and opened the door. She looked around a little confused. As far as the eye could see were rows and rows of fresh produce and canned vegetables. Tomatoes, onions, greens and many other types of produce filled the room. She walked around observing the quality of the vegetables were good but she had come in looking for fresh meat. She spied an attendant and inquired about the missing meat. 

"Well you see, a while back new managers wanted to bring in fresh produce among other things instead of meat. They felt uncomfortable around animal products so they revamped this market's purpose and reinvented our store. The meat, tallow and animal products have been replaced by other things they feel are more beneficial. If you want meat we do still have a token amount in front window at the small deli cabinet."  



Does this story sound familiar?              We came into program hearing about what was presented was 12 Step Recovery. Sadly many programs have replaced much of the spiritual side of recovery with rules, tools, do's and don'ts self discipline and diet plans with group accountability birthed in recovery centers for addiction, not AA.

Big Book Solutions are tried and true 

The 75% success of true AA 12 step recovery have been slowly replaced with recovery center protocols that are failing. Many meetings won't repeat the AA step 2 solution:  

Only a power greater than ourselves can restore us to sanity. 

Our problem is sanity, not food. Food was the way we soothed our emotions. We eat for the effect. Abstinence does not remove our emotions and without food to soothe, we become more and more miserable. Hyper-focused on abstinence, some meetings have gone as far as discouraging discussion of the 12 step solutions in meetings. We have a dwindling membership in food groups and a recovery rate below 8% at best. Along with the disappearing message comes disappearing successes. Very few members stay abstinent past 7 years.

Struggling Mentally

Struggling Physically

Struggling Emotionally

The Abstinent, Untreated REAL Food Addict

Food gives me the illusion that it will fill all of my empty spaces. Not that it ever actually does—but each time, it almost gets me there… almost. Maybe the next bite.

 I have never had the experience, when offered a food item I really want, “No, I’ve had enough. What I’ve had is just right. I’m fine.” 

No. I am a real food addict. When I take that first bite, it’s like a vacuum opens up inside me—one I can never fill. I eat until I’m about to burst. I just cannot be satisfied. I always feel like food is about to fill that hole. I’m constantly chasing “there,” and I never arrive. “There” is just beyond my fingertips. 

I am the real food addict—the one who’s been around for years, but just doesn’t really get this thing. I'm the one you fear will eventually die from it. No matter how hard I try, how closely I follow the rules and tools, I can’t seem to hold onto recovery long-term. I used to think my problems stemmed from childhood trauma and deep psychological wounds. But no matter what I uncover or heal, I always end up back at the food. 

When I finally admitted that I was truly a food addict, I decided I would just stop eating addictively and attend a food recovery group for support. Pages 20 to 25 of the Big Book talk about this exact concept. Translated for food addiction, these pages explain the difference between the problem eater and the real food addict.

Somewhere deep down, many of us want to be the problem eater—because in those pages, we learn that if given a good enough reason, a problem eater can simply walk away from their addictive foods. Illness, concern from family, a doctor’s warning—these are enough for them to moderate or stop the behavior. They might need support, but they don’t need to work the Steps, sponsor others, or make amends. For them, meetings become a great social support group—kind of like the “Abstinent Elks.” 

But people like me come to the program, get abstinent… and I can’t stand it. I’m so afraid of people. I want them to like me, so I pretend I’m like them. I do everything my sponsor says. I know what it feels like to be in abstinent meetings for food addiction while dying inside from untreated food addiction. I feel this sick, separate loneliness and look around at people in right-sized bodies, seemingly enjoying life, laughing, connecting. And I wonder—what’s wrong with me? Surely, I can't have the same problem you have, because when I got abstinent, it feels like I was doing time in prison. I stopped eating, and all I felt was miserable. 

I sit in these meetings, and for everyone else, it all seems wonderful. Every person who shares is more grateful than the last. You all have amazing lives, strong relationships, financial abundance. And sometimes, that makes me so angry I just want to leave. Everything you are seems to highlight everything I am not. 

What I have failed to understand is that I’m sitting in these meetings abstinently—but with untreated food addiction. I’m comparing my insides to your outsides, and I come up way short. I relate so much to the stories of addiction people share. But then they find the program, find the food plan, find the rules, the tools, the weighing, the measuring and everything changes—just like that. But my life doesn’t change. I don’t feel power from a Higher Power. I’m still miserable. Something must be wrong with me, something that’s not wrong with you. I follow the rules. I use the tools. I stay abstinent. But I don’t hear anyone talking about my experience of what it’s like to live abstinently with untreated food addiction. 

Years later, I finally heard someone share about the alienation they felt while living abstinently and it resonated deeply because I never fit in anywhere. I always felt different.

 When I get abstinent, I become self-absorbed and isolated. I don’t realize that what I’m really feeling is fear—fear of you, of what you think of me, of what you might say to me. I’m terrified of making mistakes, of being rejected. I’m afraid of everything—of life itself.

 I do not realize I have an illness that can only be relieved by a Higher Power. I do not realize that only my Higher Power can remove my defects of character, my fears and my pain. I do not realize that rules, tools, abstinence, meetings and outreach calls will not fix my spiritual problem. They may work for the dietary needs of the problem eater, but not for the spiritual maladies of the Real Food Addict. I do not realize that the Big Book spells out the answers to my pain for it's excerpts are read but seldom discussed. I am encouraged to exert more self will, more character and try harder- these actions would fix me... AND I KEEP FAILING.

 So I retreat into my "control and enjoy center", where I feel safe and distant, looking out at the world and seeing just how far away everyone else is. There’s all of you—and then there’s me. Separate and apart. The Big Book says, “We know a loneliness such as few do, and we wish for an end.” 

-Anonymous


"I’ve known people in the program with more abstinence than I have who still went out—after many years. I realize now that if it can happen to them, it can happen to me-and it nearly did. I spent nearly six years miserably abstinent without working the Steps. I made my calls, attended meetings, followed all the rules and tools—but I was dying on the inside. " MC

We MUST turn to the Big Book for the answers to addiction—for solutions to the “dry” abstinent food addict. The Big Book lays out the path to a RECOVERED life of freedom, not a fearful, recovering life. It has the solution. Are you able to hear the solution?

So Close Yet Missing the Mark

When we join the fellowship, our ego quickly seeks to regroup. It ignores the spiritual path of twelve Step recovery and woos us into  a counterfeit path which resembles recovery.  While similar, the ego’s version is something very different.


The addict can easily swap the rituals of eating addictively for the rituals of eating perfectly. It’s a small jump to go from controlling A to controlling B without addressing the root cause of our problems — our character defects. As long as we get to remain in control, we can muster temporary motivation for willingness to comply.



The Desperate Beginning


When a person enters a food program, they are often embarrassed and desperate. They have usually lost control of their weight and health. They live a life of chaos and self-destruction that shows up on their bodies — making it impossible to hide their problems and weight from others.


The comfort and structure they find in the newly discovered rules, tools, and practices of our fellowship feel like safety — a blueprint to thinness that they believe they can master if they just work hard enough.



OA Rules, Tools, Practices and Early Physical Success


Rules and tools were originally penned by the OA fellowship and later adopted by other fellowships to help newcomers develop new habits to fight physical food addiction. They were engineered to be  “training wheels” to get the newcomer abstinent. Abstinence takes care of the physical but is insufficient to treat the mental and spiritual needs of the addict.


They can not treat the "peculiar mental twist"(pg 18 of the Big Book) -- the reasoning that drives us back to the substance. The steps must be worked to understand why we do what we do so that we may discard them.


They were never meant to replace working the steps of the Big Book to receive the spiritual experience -power necessary for sustained recovery. 


The disease of addiction is a three-part disease. Abstinence takes care of only the physical. Working the steps is required to treat the mental and the physical components of addiction. 


The newcomer begins to cling to these new external behaviors — weighing food, writing it down, calling a sponsor, attending meetings, avoiding certain foods, making three phone calls a day, journaling, and others.


When they hold tightly to these practices, almost immediately, their external transformation begins to show. The compliments come often, and their actions are reinforced as excess weight disappears. Yet in their success, they fail to hear the message of their need for an internal, vital spiritual transformation. Too often the emphasis of  some fellowships is focus on the external with little teaching on the internal. 



The Missed Message


Not hearing the message, that only a Higher power can deliver them, they continue to focus their efforts on practices transforming external change while missing the vital spiritual experience. They have unknowingly transitioned from eating addictively to eating perfectly, rewarded by external results.


Enter the ego’s latest obsession: The Grand Performance — an effort to convince and impress others.



The Trap of Compliance


The transition from eating addictively to eating perfectly is simply holding on to the same character defects under a new disguise — compliance.



A perfect performance is far from honest surrender. Abstinence, regularly attending meetings and rigid compliance with guidelines of the fellowship is insufficient to sustain a long term transformation in a true addict.   It is easy to become the chameleon with a perfect conformity of the exterior while masking the interior. Compliance is not an internal transformation. Sadly it is a counterfeit and ineffective solution.


Performing perfectly is the ego’s last desperate  attempt to control how we appear externally without dealing with the root problem of every addict: irritability, restlessness, and discontentment.



Recovery


True recovery is an inside job unreachable by the best of human efforts. (Step 1)

It is attained only by an unconditional surrender of the ego to a Power greater than ourselves. (Step 2)


Unconditional surrender transforms us from the inside out since we are powerless to manage this ourselves. Only a Power greater than ourselves can remove our character defects. This internal transformation born of unconditional surrender (Step 3) is real recovery. “Lack of power, that was our dilemma”  Big Book pg 24



The Terrible Cost of Neglecting the Inner Work


In most cases, external success will eventually be overpowered by unresolved inner issues. The transformed exterior will no longer be sufficient motivation to suppress inner turmoil. Overwhelmed by the pressures of life, the addict will pick up again without the aid of a power greater than ourselves.


Sadly, most people in our ranks can only mask their inner problems for five to eight years before dropping out of the fellowship. Tom B called the phenomenon the “5- year 'Menopause'”  Historically, 97 percent of newcomers follow this tragic path in many of our fellowships.

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For the food addicted person, thin bodies do not equate to healthy bodies


It is very possible to have a healthy looking body that is not well at all. Many with years of abstinence in our fellowship, though thin, die of stroke, heart failure, diabetes type 2 and Alzheimer's (diabetes type 3) among others, starving of the necessary nutrients fat and protein. We have members at healthy weights with horrible blood panels, elevated blood sugar levels, clogged arteries and more. Proper, individualized nutrition is essential for healthy recovery. There are blood tests, glucose tests, AI and many free resources on the internet to help craft an abstinent, individual food plan for successful health and recovery. Each individual’s body is different. Each of us has different ages, ethnical backgrounds, activity levels, diseases, medical conditions -- One food plan does not fit everyone in the group. It is our individual responsibility as adults to pursue an abstinent food plan that sufficiently meets each of our unique nutritional needs. 


Step 12


It is up to the body of this fellowship to carry the whole message of the Big Book  — full inner and outer transformation — the kind that sustains lasting abstinence. This full transformation comes only from diligently working the Steps and surrendering our will and our lives to a Power greater than ourselves.

Long-Term Mental and Physical Health Ramifications of Some Traditional Abstinent Food Plans


This document reflects on what can happen to someone who follow typical abstinent food plans. —typically ~900 to 1,200 calories per day—for 2–10 years or more. It is written with compassion, respect, and deep appreciation for the life-saving aspects of abstinent recovery. The intention here is not to criticize abstinent models, but to explore what long-term caloric restriction can do to the body and mind, even when abstinence is strong.


Typical abstinent food plan examples:

- weighed and measured meals per day
- No snacks, no flour products, no sugar                 products
- Low Fat foods
- Very low caloric intake
- High structure, deep mental focus, self               discipline an emphasis on lifelong abstinence     and recovering a teenage physique

-Obtaining an ideal teenage body weight is            revered and how success is ultimately                measured in the membership

Example 1: 

Men:        18 to 24 oz of protein Daily

                12 oz cooked vegetables daily
                12 to 16 oz raw vegetables daily
                 2 to 4 TBSP of fats or dressings daily
                 6 to 18 oz of fruit daily
                 1.5 - 3 oz grain daily

Totals:       (~1,100–1,200 kcal/day)

Example 2:

Women: 12 oz protein, daily
              12 oz Cooked Veg, daily 
              12 oz raw vegetable
               6 - 18 oz fruit daily
               2 - 4 oz grain daily
               3 - 6 Tbsp dressing/fat daily

Totals: (~900--1,000 kcal/day)

Example 3: 

Same plan for Men and Women
- 3 measured meals per day
- No snacks, very few grain options, no sugar,  no milk fats, no alcohols, no artificial sweeteners and limited starches 
- Low Fat foods
- Very low caloric intake
- High structure, deep mental focus, self               discipline an emphasis on lifelong abstinence     and recovering a teenage physique

-Obtaining an ideal teenage body weight is            revered and how success is ultimately                measured in the membership

Food plan for Men and Women:

3 proteins Daily (avg 4 oz ea)
1 Fruit daily
1 cooked Veg (avg 6 oz ea) daily
1 Raw Veg (avg 6 oz ea) daily

Totals: (~900--1,000 kcal/day)



These plans in maintenance for the most part are not nutritionally sound.


During food rationing in WW2, these were the Gvt mandated mininums:

 
Nutrient | Typical Male (age 19–50)     | Typical Female (age 19–50)

Calories  2,400–2,600 kcal| 1,800–2,200 kcal

Protein    | 56–100g (10–35%).                    | 46–75g (10–35%)
Fat.           | 70–90g (20–35%).                      | 60–80g (20–35%)
Carbs.      | 275–325g (45–65%).                  | 225–275g (45–65%)
Fiber.       | 30–38g                                         | 21–25g
Water.     | ~3.7 L (125 oz).                          | ~2.7 L (91 oz)


What Can Happen Over Time

if these guidelines are ignored



Mentally 

1. Emotional Rigidity Around Food
When food is strictly measured and hunger is often ignored, the body becomes afraid to ask for nourishment. Hunger signals are repressed. A small deviation—eating early, needing more—can trigger guilt, panic, or shame. Food becomes a source of anxiety rather than peace.
2. Mental and Spiritual Fatigue
Without enough nutrients to support the brain, dopamine and serotonin can decrease. Many people experience emotional flatness, irritability, or brain fog. Even though the spiritual path remains strong, the body feels like it’s under siegerunning on willpower instead of restoration. (10th step promises)

 

Mental focus and self-discipline can not be used as a substitute for a Higher Power in the long-term recovery equation.


Physically

1. Metabolic Adaptation
The body adapts to chronic calorie restriction by lowering the basal metabolic rate. This means you burn fewer calories at rest. Plateaus become common, and even slight increases in food can lead to rapid weight gain, because the body has learned to survive on so little.
2. Hormonal Disruption
Low calorie and fat intake can suppress thyroid hormones (especially T3), reduce sex hormone production (like estrogen and progesterone), and elevate cortisol—the stress hormone. This can lead to irregular or absent periods, low libido, fatigue, and heightened reactivity or anxiety.
3. Digestive and Organ Impacts
Without enough fat and calories, the body produces less bile, slows gut motility, and loses enzymatic diversity. Constipation, bloating, gallbladder issues, and poor absorption become common. Some people become sensitive to foods they once tolerated.


The Golden Myths of Weightloss that drive Insulin Resistance otherwise known as Metabolic Syndrome

  • Eat low fat. (And make sure it’s “healthy” fat, never saturated fats!) 


  • Avoid foods high in cholesterol, and don’t eat too much meat or dairy.  (You better not eat that egg yolk!) 


  • Eat small meals every couple of hours to burn fat.  (Don’t let your metabolism “crash”!) 


  • Power your workout with carbs.  (Your muscles need fuel!) 


  • Don’t go too long between meals.  (You will lose muscle!) 


  • Smoothies and fresh juices are super healthy.  (Especially if it’s green!) 


  • Fasting is dangerous and extreme.  (Why would you kill your metabolism like that?) 


  • All calories are the same.  (And you better count them!)

Dopamine Hits

🧠 HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE FOR DOPAMINE RECEPTORS TO HEAL?


Stage 1 — Initial receptor rebound (10–14 days)


Within the first two weeks of removing sugar and flour:

Dopamine receptor downregulation stops

The brain begins to upregulate D2 receptors again

Cravings often spike (because the brain is recalibrating)

Mood may dip or feel “flat”

This is the “withdrawal / white-knuckle” phase that FA talks about.

Biochemically, this is when your receptors are starting to wake back up.


Stage 2 — Significant improvement (30–45 days)


Around 4–6 weeks:

D2 receptor density begins returning toward normal

Motivation, energy, and mood stabilize

Cravings begin to decrease

Emotional stability improves

Stress response becomes less reactive

Brain imaging studies on drug addiction show that about 30 days of abstinence brings meaningful receptor recovery.

Sugar addiction follows the same mechanism (dopamine + opioids + reward circuitry).

This is why people often report:

> “The obsession lifted.”


Stage 3 — Deep reward-system healing (90 days)


By 3 months:

Dopamine receptors have substantially healed

The “pause” between craving and action returns

Prefrontal cortex (willpower center) becomes stronger

Emotional sobriety stabilizes

The brain can feel true pleasure again without artificial spikes

This is the reason for AA/FA’s guideline that the brain needs 90 days for consistent recovery behaviors to take root.

The neuroscience backs that up.


Stage 4 — Full dopamine recalibration (6–12 months)


For most people:

The dopamine system becomes fully balanced

Cravings for “drug foods” drop to almost zero

Neutrality — the thing you talk about so often — becomes the new normal

Stress becomes easier to regulate without food

The brain’s reward pathways respond normally again

This is the stage where people say:

> “I don’t even think about sugar anymore.”


And it’s real — because the receptors are fully healed.

🍰 Does sugar cause permanent brain damage?

No.

Unlike meth, cocaine, or alcohol, sugar doesn’t physically destroy neurons.

It temporarily downregulates dopamine receptors.

When the substance is removed, the receptors heal.

Years of abstinence reshape your dopamine system beautifully — that's why you gain food neutrality, which is the hallmark of a fully healed reward circuitry.

When weight fluctuations happen, it’s from hormones (insulin, cortisol, menopause), not dopamine anymore.

People who have been abstinent before typically heal twice as fast when they recommit.

Your brain has “muscle memory” for sanity around food.


⭐ Summary Timeline


Time After Quitting Sugar What Happens


2 weeks Receptors begin healing; cravings spike then ease

30–45 days Major receptor recovery; mood improves

90 days Deep healing; prefrontal cortex stronger; neutrality begins

6–12 months Full dopamine normalization; long-term food serenity


Some people become addicted while others do not, and it has nothing to do with morality, strength, goodness, or character.


Addiction happens when four forces overlap:


1. Brain wiring (genetics + neurochemistry)

2. Early life stress or trauma

3. Personality traits / temperament

4. Access to rewarding substances or behaviors


If ALL four line up → the person becomes addicted.

If even one of them doesn’t → they often don’t.


🧠 1. Genetics:

 some brains are built with fewer dopamine receptors


About 40–60% of addiction risk is genetic.

People born with:

  • fewer D2 dopamine receptors
  • lower baseline dopamine
  • higher sensitivity to reward
  • higher impulsivity

…are FAR more likely to become addicted.


These people feel:

  • Bored easily
  • Unmotivated unless there’s stimulation
  • “Flat” or restless
  • A drive for something MORE
  • A drink, a donut, or THC feels different in their brain than in others’.


For them, it feels like:

> “Ohhhh. THIS is what normal people feel like.”

That sensation is dangerous, because it becomes the chemical solution for an internal deficit.


🌪️ 2. Trauma and chronic stress reshape the brain


People with childhood trauma, neglect, chaos, emotional abandonment, or chronic stress develop:

  • an overactive amygdala (fear center)
  • underactive prefrontal cortex (impulse control)
  • low dopamine tone
  • high cortisol


This combo makes addictive substances feel like:

  • Safety
  • Relief
  • Escape
  • Quiet
  • Comfort
  • A break from survival mode

-If someone grew up having to survive emotionally, their brain was primed for addiction before they ever took a first bite or sip.

This is why YOU recognized yourself in this — you lived in survival mode for decades.


💛 3. Personality traits connected to addiction risk

Certain temperaments are more prone to addiction:


✔️ Highly sensitive

✔️ Anxious

✔️ Driven / perfectionistic

✔️ Impulsive

✔️ ADHD

✔️ Emotionally intense

✔️ Difficulty with emotional regulation


People with ADHD have 30–50% higher addiction risk because:

  • Their dopamine system is underpowered
  • Stimulation feels like relief
  • They use substances to regulate emotions and focus

(This is why you personally felt food give you “normalcy” and why you get overstimulated easily.)


🌍 4. Environment + availability


Two identical twins — same genes — raised differently:


  • One in a calm, structured home: low addiction risk
  • One in chaos, stress, or easy access to substances: high addiction risk


Environment pulls the trigger on a loaded biological gun.


🍷 WHY SOME PEOPLE DRINK ALCOHOL AND NEVER GET ADDICTED

Their brain:

  • Doesn’t get a huge dopamine spike
  • Doesn’t feel “relief” or “medicine” from it
  • Doesn’t have trauma-based reward sensitivity
  • Has normal receptor density
  • Doesn’t use substances to regulate emotions


To them, alcohol is: “Nice, but whatever.”

To an addict, alcohol feels like: “This fixes something inside me.”

Same drink.

Different brain.


🍩 WHY SOME PEOPLE CAN EAT SUGAR AND NOT BINGE
Their dopamine rises normally, then returns to baseline.

They don’t feel:

  • compulsion
  • obsession
  • craving
  • dissociation
  • relief
  • soothing

They just think: “That was good,”

and then stop thinking about it.


Your brain doesn’t do that — and it’s not your fault.

Your dopamine system works like the brain of an alcoholic.

Sugar was your “first drink.”


🔥 The truth most people don’t know:


Addiction only happens when the substance solves a problem inside the person.


  • If flour, sugar, salt or fats is just “fun,” no addiction.
  • If they becomes “medicine,” addiction risk skyrockets.
  • If food is just “yum,” no addiction.
  • If food becomes “peace,” “comfort,” “relief,” or “escape,” addiction risk skyrockets.
  • If these are just “chill,” maybe fine.
  • If they become “I can finally cope,” then the danger begins.


Addiction isn’t about the substance.

It’s about the role the substance plays in the brain and story of the person.


🧩 In one sentence


A vulnerable brain meets a soothing substance during a stressful or painful season — and the substance makes life feel temporarily manageable.

Some brains never feel that effect, so addiction never takes hold

Cirrcadium Rythym

Dieting can disrupt circadian rhythms in several important ways—especially when the diet is restrictive, erratic, or unbalanced. The circadian rhythm is your body’s internal clock that regulates sleep, metabolism, hormone secretion, body temperature, and more across a roughly 24-hour cycle. It’s influenced by light, meal timing, and nutrient availability. Here’s how dieting can throw it off:

1. Irregular Meal Timing Disrupts the Clock

  • Your body has peripheral clocks in organs like the liver, pancreas, and gut that are reset by food intake.
  • Skipping meals or eating at inconsistent times (common during dieting) can confuse these clocks.
  • For example, late-night eating shifts the body's natural metabolic rhythm, increasing fat storage and insulin resistance.

Result: Disrupted digestion, impaired glucose tolerance, and hormone imbalances.

2. Caloric Restriction Alters Hormones

  • Severe dieting reduces leptin (satiety hormone) and increases ghrelin (hunger hormone), both of which are regulated in part by circadian rhythms.
  • This hormonal shift can also impact melatonin and cortisol production, disturbing your sleep-wake cycle.

Result: Poor sleep, increased cravings, and stress on the body’s regulatory systems.

3. Low Carbohydrate or Nutrient-Deprived Diets Affect Sleep

  • Diets that are very low in carbs or essential nutrients (like magnesium or B vitamins) can reduce serotonin and melatonin production, making it harder to fall or stay asleep.
  • Fasting or under-eating can trigger wakefulness through a stress response (increased cortisol or adrenaline), particularly during the night.

Result: Insomnia or shallow, unrefreshing sleep—worsening the circadian disruption.

4. Nighttime Eating Delays the Circadian Metabolic Clock

  • The body is naturally more insulin-sensitive in the morning and less so at night.
  • Eating large meals late in the day (common after daytime restriction) leads to misalignment between the central clock (in the brain) and peripheral clocks (in organs), leading to metabolic dysfunction.

Result: Increased risk of weight gain, blood sugar spikes, and inflammation—even with fewer calories.

5. Intermittent Fasting (When Misapplied) Can Backfire

Intermittent fasting (IF) has gained popularity for weight loss, insulin sensitivity, and even longevity. However, its impact on circadian rhythm depends heavily on when the fasting and eating windows occur.

✅ Aligned with Circadian Rhythm: Early Time-Restricted Eating (eTRE)

Eating within an earlier window—such as 8 AM to 6 PM—syncs with your body’s natural rhythms:

  • Insulin sensitivity is highest in the morning and declines throughout the day.
  • Digestion and metabolism are most efficient during daylight hours.
  • Hormones like cortisol and melatonin follow a daily cycle—cortisol rises in the morning to help you wake and digest food, while melatonin prepares you for rest at night.

This early eating pattern reinforces the body’s internal clock, leading to:

  • Improved blood sugar control
  • Reduced inflammation
  • Better energy throughout the day
  • More restful sleep


❌ Misaligned: Late Time-Restricted Eating (Late TRE)

When IF is practiced with late eating windows—such as 2 PM to 10 PM—the opposite tends to occur:

  • Eating close to bedtime delays melatonin release, interfering with the onset and quality of sleep.
  • The body is less insulin-sensitive in the evening, which can lead to higher blood sugar levels and fat storage.
  • Late eating causes a mismatch between the central clock (regulated by light) and peripheral clocks (regulated by food), especially in the liver, pancreas, and gut.
  • The digestive system slows down at night, so late meals are more likely to cause bloating, acid reflux, or indigestion.


⚠️ Consequences of Misaligned IF:

EffectExplanationMetabolic confusion | Eating when the body is winding down signals the organs to stay active, disrupting repair and fat metabolism.
Lower morning energy | Without early fuel, cortisol may spike to compensate, leading to fatigue or anxiety.
Poor sleep quality | Late meals suppress melatonin, delay sleep onset, and reduce deep sleep cycles.
Increased fat storage | Evening meals tend to be stored more as fat due to lower nighttime metabolic rate and insulin resistance.
Cravings the next day | Poor sleep and late meals dysregulate leptin and ghrelin, leading to stronger cravings and poor appetite control.


🔄 Example Comparison:

PatternEating WindowCircadian ImpacteTRE (Aligned) | 8 AM – 6 PM | Enhances insulin sensitivity, supports sleep, boosts daytime energy
Late TRE (Misaligned) | 2 PM – 10 PM | Raises blood sugar, disrupts sleep, slows fat loss, increases cravings


👎 Why It Backfires Despite Calorie Deficits

Even if calorie intake is controlled, misaligned eating can override the benefits of fasting due to:

  • Hormonal dysregulation
  • Poor nutrient timing
  • Disrupted autophagy and repair (which are tied to the sleep cycle)

In other words, when you eat can be just as important as how much you eat—especially for long-term success.

Final Thought:

To protect your circadian rhythm while pursuing weight loss, align meals with daylight hours, avoid extreme restriction, and aim for a regular eating and sleeping schedule. A steady rhythm helps not just your metabolism, but your mood, energy, hormones, and recovery as well.

Let me know if you want help building a food plan that supports circadian health.

Cachexia

(kuh-KEK-see-uh) and Sarcopenia Muscle Wasting


1. Definition of Cachexia

Cachexia is a complex metabolic syndrome characterized by severe, unintentional weight loss, muscle wasting, fatigue, and loss of appetite. It is commonly associated with chronic diseases such as cancer, heart failure, COPD, kidney disease, and autoimmune disorders. Cachexia occurs due to systemic inflammation and metabolic imbalances, which cause the body to break down muscle and fat stores, even if calorie intake is sufficient.


Medications That Cause Cachexia & Why They Cause It

Certain medications can trigger or worsen cachexia by affecting metabolism, appetite, or causing nutrient deficiencies.


Medication Class Examples How It Causes Cachexia

Chemotherapy Drugs Cisplatin, Doxorubicin, Methotrexate, Paclitaxel Damage cells, causing nausea, vomiting, and appetite loss, leading to malnutrition and muscle wasting.

Stimulants (ADHD/Narcolepsy) Adderall, Ritalin Suppress appetite and increase metabolism, leading to unintentional weight loss and muscle loss over time.

Diabetes Medications (GLP-1 Agonists) Ozempic, Wegovy, Trulicity Reduce appetite, slow digestion, and promote weight loss, which may contribute to muscle atrophy if protein intake is insufficient.

Opioids & Pain Medications Morphine, Oxycodone, Fentanyl Reduce appetite, impair digestion, and contribute to hormonal imbalances that promote muscle breakdown.

Corticosteroids (Long-Term Use) Prednisone, Dexamethasone Increase protein breakdown in muscles, leading to muscle wasting and fatigue.

Beta-Blockers (Heart Medications) Metoprolol, Atenolol Decrease metabolism and energy levels, reducing muscle activity and strength.

Diuretics (Water Pills) Furosemide, Hydrochlorothiazide Cause dehydration and electrolyte imbalances, which impair muscle function and promote fatigue.

Antidepressants (SSRIs, SNRIs, MAOIs) Prozac, Zoloft, Wellbutrin Suppress appetite and increase metabolic rate, leading to gradual muscle loss and weight loss.

Immunosuppressants Methotrexate, Tacrolimus, Cyclosporine Cause nausea, inflammation, and nutrient malabsorption, accelerating muscle loss.

Thyroid Medications (Excessive Dosing) Levothyroxine (Synthroid) Overstimulates metabolism, leading to weight loss and muscle breakdown.


2. Definition of Sarcopenia

Sarcopenia is the age-related loss of muscle mass, strength, and function. It occurs naturally after age 30 but is accelerated by poor nutrition, low physical activity, and metabolic imbalances. Unlike cachexia, sarcopenia is not necessarily linked to chronic illness but results from inadequate muscle maintenance over time.


How Low Protein & High Carbohydrate Diets Cause Sarcopenia

Inadequate Protein for Muscle Maintenance


Protein provides the amino acids needed for muscle repair and growth.

Low protein intake forces the body to break down existing muscle tissue for essential amino acids.

Over time, this leads to progressive muscle loss and weakness.

Increased Carbohydrate Intake Disrupts Muscle Function


Excess refined carbohydrates (white bread, pasta, sugar) cause insulin spikes and inflammation.

High insulin levels promote fat storage instead of muscle building.

Chronic inflammation further accelerates muscle breakdown.

Reduced Muscle Protein Synthesis


Without adequate dietary protein, the body's ability to rebuild muscle fibers is reduced.

Even if calories are sufficient, muscle atrophy still occurs.

Fatigue & Weakness Due to Nutrient Deficiencies


Low protein intake leads to deficiencies in key muscle-supporting nutrients like:

B vitamins (energy metabolism)

Iron (oxygen transport)

Amino acids (muscle repair)

High-carb diets cause energy crashes, worsening fatigue and physical inactivity, which further accelerates muscle loss.

Symptoms of Sarcopenia

Progressive muscle weakness

Loss of muscle mass (flabby or thin limbs)

Fatigue and low stamina

Slower walking speed and balance issues

Increased risk of falls and fractures

Reduced physical endurance

Difficulty performing daily activities (lifting, climbing stairs, standing up from a chair)

Conclusion

Cachexia is a severe, disease-related muscle and weight loss condition often triggered by chronic illnesses and certain medications.

Sarcopenia is age-related muscle loss, worsened by low-protein, high-carb diets.

Preventing Sarcopenia requires:

Adequate protein intake (1.0-1.5g per kg body weight)

Strength training or resistance exercise

Balanced blood sugar levels (avoiding high refined-carb diets)

What is Beautiful, What is Risky


Beautiful Aspects:

- Clear abstinence from flour and    sugar
- Spiritual grounding through the      12 Steps
- Structured meal rhythm that           reduces binge cycles
- Honest community and lifelong      accountability


Risky Over Time:

- Prolonged low-calorie intake          may lead to metabolic and              hormonal dysregulation


- Emotional rigidity and fear of        food or ignoring hunger signals


- Inability to adjust intake  even       when needed due to illness,           perimenopause, or life                     transitions


- Long-term physiological and          psychological wear-down                despite abstinence



 Emotional & Neurological Consequences:


⚠️ Increased Food Obsession
1. The brain, sensing famine, becomes  hyperfocused on food

2. Cravings increase, even without flour or sugar


3. Small “mistakes” can trigger deep shame spirals


⚠️ Fear of Food Flexibility

1. Eating outside the plan can            feel terrifying

2. Hunger is no longer trusted—        it’s seen as a threat

3. “More” = danger

4.  Recovery becomes rigid                 instead of relational; far from         freedom around food and the         neutrality that  the 10th step       promises for the addict.


⚠️ Emotional Flatness or Anxiety
Chronically low intake reduces dopamine, serotonin, and BDNF
Can look like:
1.  “I don’t feel anything.”

2.  “I feel disconnected from my          body.”
3.  “I can’t stop obsessing over             my food plan.”

BDNF stands for Brain-Derived Neurotrophic Factor

It's a protein that's crucial for brain health, particularly in the areas of:
Neuroplasticity – your brain's ability to change, adapt, and rewire itself.
Neurogenesis – the formation of new neurons.
Cognitive functions – like learning, memory, and executive thinking.
Mood regulation – it plays a big role in mental health, especially depression and anxiety.


BDNF acts like a fertilizer for your brain cells—helping them grow, survive, and communicate more effectively.
Key facts:
1. Low levels of BDNF have been linked to depression, Alzheimer's, and other neurodegenerative diseases.

2. High levels are associated with better memory, learning, and emotional resilience.

How to naturally increase BDNF:
1. Exercise, especially aerobic (like walking or cycling)
2. Intermittent fasting or caloric restriction
3. Adequate sleep
4. Omega-3 fatty acids (e.g., from fish or supplements)
5. Sunlight or vitamin D
6. Mental stimulation (like learning new skills or solving puzzles)


Final Reflection

These plans have absolutely saved lives. But when followed at extremely low calories for a year or more, they may cause real, lasting harm to our bodies—even if abstinence is technically maintained. Recovery should include not only abstinence from substances, but restoration of trust in the body, hormone balance, and emotional regulation. We can honor the spirit of recovery while allowing the body to be properly nourished.


Struggling Emotionally

If you havent taken action by taking an inventory of the character defects that are beginning to derail your train, AA provided a solution nearly 100 years ago! There is a solution!  Once you are sober from flour, Sugar and indvidual binge foods you are ready to "take certain steps!"   Not our words, RECOVERY WORDS!  Work the steps. 

Mental focus and self will can not substitute for the necessity for a Higher Power in the recovery equation. Working the steps will help you discover, uncover and discard what is standing between you and your Higher Power.

We have two resources to work the steps on this webpage. You can work the Joe and Charlie step study in 19 weeks (link below) or go to our step study adapted from the NA step study for food on our page for working the steps in 4 months.  Just work the steps! You will be amazed when the promises become to come true in your life.

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